1. Their clothes
Whether they are wearing the latest fashion, or look like they’re homeless, who are you to judge? That’s the way they express themselves, or they probably had a bad day. As far as you know, it might be laundry day.
2. Their past
Whatever happened, happened. Once a mistake is made, you just simply put it behind you (or in the back of the closet), move on and never go back there. It’s nobody’s damn business to dig through your closet, so don’t do the same to them.
3. Their accent
I’m saying this, because I have an accent, as much as I’m trying to get rid of it. And I feel nervous when talking to people whose native language is English, which only makes things worse. And I really appreciate it when people don’t look at me like I’m Borat and I’m here to tell you all about the Glorious Nation of Kazakhstan.
4. Their sexuality
Or how they choose to express it. It’s one thing to ask them whether they are single or taken over coffee, and quite another to ask if they like it in the butt or have gay experience. That’s a line you probably want to cross over dinner.
5. Their friends
There was a saying that if you want to know a person, you should take a good look at his friends, which I think is pure shit. I have dumb friends, smart friends, funny friends, awkward friends, and I’m none of the above.
Bottom line, whether it’s based on religious views, skin colour, education or the lack of it, weight, music taste, money, please, don’t judge if you don’t want to be judged yourself. And if, by any chance, you do, go to a reality show and spare us your opinion. Thank you!
M. Stefanova, 2013